What Men Really Want in Bed - No Dead Fish For Starters

What Men Really Want in Bed - No Dead Fish For Starters

So what do men really want in bed? Do you know what turns men on in general? More importantly, do you know what turns 'your' man on? If you want to pick up a few tips, then read on...

Okay, the first thing to ask yourself is, are you 'both' as happy today - in the bedroom department - as you were when you first met? Remember way back when (whether it was months or years even), when you were both excited just to be together, couldn't get enough of each other sexually and really got turned on by each other. You both wanted to touch each other all the time, in bed and out and oftentimes used to rip each others clothes off - remember that? Or is it something like a distant memory?

If you find yourselves 'making out' less than you used to, then that's okay. In fact it's absolutely normal. With the passage of time, how often you jump on each other is usually going to drop to a less explosive degree: let's say you used to make out every single night (sometimes more than once!) and now you make love say three times a week (the average for a normal relationship), whether you're married or not.

What is 'not' okay is if you went from having a wonderfully exciting and 'active' sex life to now having 'it' say once a month. This is 'not' good.

So what do men really want in bed?

Firstly, he wants sex. And he wants it more than once a month. As outlined above, think back to when you first met. Okay, you might not be able to manage the marathon sessions today (perhaps you have kids now) but you absolutely have to make an effort. So first thing, he wants sex, it's that simple. If you're not making out at least once a week, preferably a minimum of three, then you need to find the time and spend time with your man sexually.

Secondly and 'just as important', he wants you to enjoy your lovemaking. So many times guys (in confidence with therapists) will say they feel their wives or partners are like 'dead fish'. He wants some feeling, some expression from you, that you're actually 'there' with him. He doesn't want to be thinking, 'Oh God, she just wants me to get this over and done with' or 'I know she doesn't want this but I'm desperate, we haven't done it for weeks'. Guys actually experience this and it's incredibly sad. So to drive the point home, men hate 'dead fish' in the sack!

Your guy has every right to feel neglected, upset, used and more if the two of you had a wonderful physical relationship at the outset and now you could care less whether you make out or not. It's not right and it's not fair, to either one of you.

Lastly, he wants you to make an effort with your appearance. Again, go back to when you first met. You probably brushed your hair, spritzed some perfume on and even sometimes wore sexy lingerie. Well, give him a treat today. Does he no longer deserve type of attention from you? Just because you may have now been together for a while, take it from me, your man needs to be satisfied in bed. If he's not, he will (vast majority of men that is and I don't care what personality trait he has) start noticing other women as he's painfully aware of what he no longer gets at home.

So do yourself a favor (and your guy), take him back to when you first met. Give him what he wants in bed. Remember, he wants (1) sex, (2) no dead fish and (3) for you to make an effort. And if you want to shoot for his absolute favorite - well, that's oral sex of course. So now you know...

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What That Job Description Really Means

What That Job Description Really Means

NOTE: Individuals seeking employment are not the only ones who sometimes creative when it comes to selling themselves (ie, resumes and cover letters, which, to say that we have "modified" to search for the ideal candidate as a person) is. Some employers have a tendency to rant, that their open positions sound better than they really are using them. Over the years, I have some popular job descriptions, which are regarded as warning signs of a potential employer might be tempted to put a notice shouldoptimistic spin on a less than stellar work situation. Thus, the lack reading ads, the following translations:

Motivated team player - looking for someone who needs a job so much that they will withstand a lot of unwarranted, rude people, of which you get a buy-in on almost everything you need to do.

Flyer, driven to succeed - must be a brown suit, his nose, whose sole job in life is to satisfy and impress management.

Customer-oriented - cana lot of abuse from customers and management, and still be enjoyable.

Resources, independent self-starter - because we absolutely do not have time or resources to work out, we expect to find out all about you ... quickly.

The attention to detail - we have strict policies and procedures and will not hesitate to blame for everything, if you make a mistake.

Flexible, enjoys multi-tasking - are disorganized and business directions change every day, so you must be ableThe pollution of our casinos and jobless, A) were not told in this interview, and B) are not trained to do it well - all in an instant.

Agents of change - you are responsible for the implementation of a number of things that do not occur in a location with a group of people who are digging in their heels and refuse to be converted.

Works well under pressure - our management team keeps everything is urgent, you go from micro-managing every day.

Solution-oriented - weto give you lots of messes to clean up and expect you to figure out how to handle them without our direction and with a big smile on your face, even though we aren't going to give you any resources or support to get it done.

Okay - so you know I'm being sarcastic. But, let's not forget, all humor is rooted in a bit of truth, right?

I'm not saying that any job posting with one or more of these terms should be crossed of your list of potential employers. I'm just pointing out that every job seeker should do their homework to make sure they have a realistic understanding of what a potential employer's work environment is really like. (A great post on the need to be selective was recently written by marketing guru, Seth Godin.) FACT: There are no perfect jobs or perfect employers.

I know these are desperate times and many people feel compelled to accept any job offer they get. However, in doing so, you could jump out of the frying pan and into the fire. You need to honestly assess an employer by asking questions that will help you see their flaws (tactfully, of course). Remember: employers are like a potential mate. Don't fool yourself into thinking you can change them once you are together. Take off your rose-colored glasses (or, beer goggles, for you younger readers) and choose an employer for who they really are - warts and all.

Finally, I leave you with this last piece of advice....

If you do see any of the terms above coupled with "unlimited income potential," "rapid advancement," or "ground-floor opportunity," then before your apply, I just hope you'll ask yourself, "Why are they trying so hard to impress me?" Need I say more?

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